You may have noticed that Papi hasn’t appeared in any posts in awhile.
That’s because we’re getting divorced.
Although it’s always terribly sad when a family breaks up, sometimes it’s just necessary. I consider myself lucky, in our case things are very civil. Papi still comes over to take care of Bebé each weekday morning and on Friday evenings we all have a meal together.
I won’t go into whose fault this is (It’s all his fault of course. hahahaha) because it simply doesn’t matter. There are no regrets here, at least on my part. We shared a lot of wonderful times together and had our precious son. I will always consider Papi and his family, my family. His daughter will always be my step-daughter and of course, Bebé’s big sister. Just as his ex and I (well his other ex, ha) have always done, I will continue to do my best to make sure that everyone feels like they are part of this extended family.
Of course, the person I am most worried about is my precious Bebé. There is nothing more painful for a mother than to see her child in pain. Papi left the house in January and for the most part Bebé is doing well. He has his moments, and he misses his Papá, particularly when he is being punished by Mamá, but I do believe he is beginning to understand (as much as a 3 year old can) that he will still have both of us.
I must mention how the support of my family and particularly my friends has reminded me just how lucky I am to have so many wonderful people in my life.
Nobody gets married wanting or expecting to get divorced. The disappointment and sadness is palpable when it happens, but I mourned my marriage during my marriage, so I am on the other side now.
It’s very sad, but please don’t feel sorry for me. Today I am a very happy woman. I only hope with all my heart that my decision does not cause anyone else to be unhappy.